Sultry Nutter

I recently had a conversation with a good friend about BJ’s. It was rather surprising and now I just need to know what you all think…. so….

Ok changed my mind! I will air the laundry… So here are the characters in my little story. Andi, Mel** and I

(** name has been changed to protect her Identity)

I currently live in a nice little cute place. It has two full bedrooms – they are small but it’s still a full bedroom, think South B original servants quarter size room- and an attic. Now Andi has lived here for four years. And when I moved in, a year ago, she moved up into the attic. For 2 reasons a) she always wanted to move up there and b) not many people would live up there. Why wouldn’t someone want to live up there?  Well the space is small. And you have to get up to that space using a ladder. Remember that ladder you used to use a kid to get up to your bed on the double-decker you shared with your younger brother or sister? Yes that kind of ladder, slightly larger and longer.

So over the summer, in July to be precise, one of the rooms becomes available. So I had the pleasurable task of finding us a roommate. Andi and I spoke about the process. She said she was busy and I didn’t mind doing the bulk work of it. So I found us a roommate- Mel. Before I found Mel, Andi mentioned that she would be moving out when I moved out in December, or in February. And I was like ok so I told Mel you have to commit for a few month more like 6 -8 and so she did.  Mel moved in August.

Sept 30^th rolls along and pop goes the weasel... Andi causally mentions that she is moving in November. I am stunned. This is the first I am hearing of this. She almost knocked the wind out of me. Thank goodness for my 53 kilos. I could have sworn that any heavier and my ass would have gone through this carpeted floor. So I question her “ when in November? Like early? Or at the end of the month? “

Andi : “well its actually more like early November? “

SN : oh so you mean November 1^st so basically its end of this month?

Andi: well yeah I guess.

SN: yeah I think its end of Oct because tomorrow is the first.

Andi:  yeah well I figure that’s ok notice coz you can get someone to rent the place in a month.

SN can feel herself falling thru the floor.

I’m pissed. Coz the woman just went back on her word. Livid doesn’t begin to cover how I feel.  I’m a touch passive aggressive when I feel betrayed. Not just that, I also have to go back on what I told Mel. Mel is working late when this conversation happened. So when I see her the next day, I tell her the news. I also apologize because I told her would be moving in December or Feb. I feel horrid. Mel has only lived here what 2 months and now she has to find another place. Yeah thanks ANDI!  I put up an ad for the place. In a week I only get two responses. 2 responses! No, this place is really cheap so 2 responses is B.A.D. and-not -the –Michael- Jackson- style- more- like- the- Mike- Tyson- vs- Evander- Hollyfield-ear- biting- saga- B.A.D.And none are viable applicants because I knew them from my school and I just was like no I don’t think I want to live with you. So that leaves the option of staying and paying double the amount we are playing for a tiny place. No thanks on my part No thanks on Mel’s part!

Fortunately we found a place the following weekend!! And stitched that ear up! God is great I tell you!

So now I’m moving.

Lesson # 1 : Don’t trust people that be flipping left and right, saying this and doing the other. They will move out on you!

And did I tell you how the woman, ANDI,  didn’t even pay the gas bill? DAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMNNNNNNNNNNNNNN  that CHIC be trifling!  You are not going to believe this!

I want to write a blog post but there is so much to talk about. My thoughts are all scattered…..

So much that I want to say about relationships and friendships, closure and openness, change and rediscovery.

But sometimes you just have to be STILL.

Sometimes you have to sit and be quiet. And just accept things as they are. Without complaining, and just letting your heart and your mind speak.

So as you think about Sultry Nutter today, as you read this, just sit and listen to yourself.  Listen.

So all the past posts are private! Sorry my lovelies, but I needed to do that. Why? Several reasons, but I wont bore you the details. I’ll be making them public one at a time, selectively ofcourse.

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I just signed a new lease on an apartment.

I move in November 1^st. I am very excited to say the least. I’ve wanted an apartment I could call my very own and I am finally realizing it. I will be sharing the place with a new friend but I can genuinely say that this is “my apartment” .

Moving requires the dropping of a few items – old clothes, money, old books, trash, shit you will never use, more money, stuff that you want to upgrade, and even more money. That said this move has made me realize something- either I have expensive taste standards or I am really cheap.

I am all about quality. Quality, Quality, Quality, but I am also conservative with my money. Daddy would be proud, and so will my future hubby!

(I am also fabulous!) I also want the best that I can afford.  But it is tricky? I’m African- born and bred, proud and aware, so If I see something that says $ 20, it’s only natural that I convert it into my local currency ( KSH) . I question everything? Is it worth this much? Can I get cheaper somewhere else- another store, country, continent, maybe another planet, anywhere??

Quality tends to be oversold. Really it is.  Why do I say this? EVERYTHING goes on sale at some point; Even people. I don’t want the best quality that money can buy. I want the best quality.

So when my friend suggests that we buy $ 1 dollar glasses. I cringe- $ 1 dollar glasses? NO! I mean please! That’s way to0 cheap!They just might break if a man touches them. $ 2 or $ 3 dollar glasses sound better!  But when I say I’m thinking about buying pots and pans – a whole set for $200- I can’t believe I’m thinking I might have to drop $200 for a set of pots and pans! And yes I know that $200 isn’t a lot when you discover that the pots and pans of my dreams are almost in the $600 range ( wedding gift perhaps?! dreams are made of these )

Granted I’m talking about kitchen ware but this goes beyond that… do you have to sacrifice quality for price? And yes so what I have standards (ahem expensive taste,) and I want it at a fair price. Is that so much to ask?

Surprise! Surprise!

A lot of you have been fretting over what is happening to the blog.

Fear not Sultry Nutter is still here. Still honest, fabulous and sultry.

If you are an avid and dedicated reader, which I am sure you all are- you might recall my saying that I would be making some changes to the blog.

That was the first.  More to come … So keep your guard up!